Notes on Being Metis


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Growing up, I knew I was mixed. I knew my mother and my father came from different backgrounds; my mother looked different than my father. She is Native and my dad is white. I’ve always known this, but never understood it growing up. Discerning, when you’re a child, why your mother looks different than you… or why you look like your mother but have your father’s skin never really crossed my mind, until other people started to categorize me. It wasn’t until outsiders, outside of my nuclear world, started to regulate the spaces I was supposed to hold in society. This happens at small level: in school all the Native kids were taken out of class in order to attend a ‘cultural’ class. Usually taught by a white person who taught us how to make pipe cleaner dreamcatchers and tell us about lacrosse and pemmican. But this was my first introduction on what it meant, outside of my world, what it meant to be Aboriginal. To the non-Native kids in my class, we were ‘special’ and segregated because we were being taken out of the ‘normal’ classes in order to do ‘special Indian’ things. Then, my non-Native friends would ask me why I got to go, I didn’t look Native. This is probably a good time to acknowledge the privilege I hold as a white-passing person, and the complexities it holds. Because I got my father’s genetics: light skin, light hair, I am allowed to float through society easier than people who are ‘visible’, darker, who society identifies as “different” than the dominate. I do not intend, nor do I ever wish to, downplay the privilege my appearance gives me within society.

The point of my early example of my elementary school experiences is to make it clear that when you’re Native, or when you’re not a part of the dominate society either ethnically or racially, you always walk in a different world… and other people are not hesitant to draw attention to that. A young me, knowing intrinsically that my family was different than the other kids (my parents were divorced, one parent is brown one parent is white, etc.) was one thing. I understood this, but they were my family and I didn’t understand the implications this held for me; I was Rob and Sharon’s child, but I was an autonomous unit who was not a part of this larger societal system of identification. But this innocence gets shattered at an early age, because it’s ingrained in our society to draw attention to things that are not a part of the the status quo. So, why were these Native kids taken out of class, and why was I included? With the constant inquiries from the other kids, I began to develop a consciousness of my identity. At this age, it was confusion… and it still is.

My mother was always very vocal that we were Metis, while we were growing up. My kokum is a leader in our community, and is now a respected Elder. She was president of our community’s Metis society for sixteen years, and helped create it. Being Metis wasn’t something that had to be developed in my life, it was just something that was established when I was born. And I was aware of this… I knew who we were, and are, but I was never aware of what this meant. Navigating this world, as a Metis person is complex, and with my short time on this Earth, I’ve encountered some questions that I am still trying to answer… and probably never will answer. Navigating your identity in a society that (a) doesn’t respect it and (b) doesn’t understand it is confounding.

I have been asked a countless number of times of why I don’t just “be white” because I “look white”… and I have began to interpret it on a number of levels. On the surface, I always feel like the asker is asking me: but why can’t you be normal? because in our society, white is what is considered normal. On a deeper level, I feel like the asker is asking me: why can’t you simplify your identity so I can make sense of it, within my narrow world view and understood categories of people. When I tell people that (a) I’m not even sure what this means and (b) I’m Metis… it always leads into the statement that: “Metis people are not REALLY Native anyway.” I’ve got this from both non-Native people and Native people… and every time someone says this, I have to fight back the urge from punching them. To tell me this, to tell me that Metis people are not real Native people, is to deny the horrors of my kokum in Residential School, it’s to deny the fact that Canada tried to systematically exterminate us… it’s to deny our history. But, this also feeds into internalized issues of… “am I enough”? Am I Native enough to fit in with my Native friends, am I white enough to fit in with my white friends? How do I keep my identity, which at the very core ensures that I carry the history of my people on my shoulders, quiet while I pretend that I can keep silent about who I am, so people will stop asking questions? I wont pretend that having the ability to be quiet, and hide my identity isn’t a privilege. It means that I have this option, it means that in society I can “hide”… and a lot of Metis do, and I don’t blame them. Being ashamed of being Metis was engrained into our being, from the hanging of Riel to the halfbreed Scrip… we were told that being Metis is something that we should never be proud of.

When ever I encounter a conversation with another Native person about how Metis people are whitewashed or just white people pretending to be Native… I always think of Marilyn Dumont’s poem: “Leather and Naugahyde”. In her poem, she tells a story of this scene of her having coffee with a treaty guy, and he asks her, where she is from. When you’re Native, there’s a lot of implications behind this… it’s not like asking someone, hey, where’re you from Bob? Halifax or Toronto? it’s a way of telling who this person is, your status, your Nation, your community. It’s not a negative thing, but when you’re Metis the answer always comes out different… Dumont describes it like an apology… she tells his man she is Metis like it’s an apology. I’ve done this too… tell people I’m Metis like I’m apologizing for something I don’t quite understand: sorry I exist. I still do this at times, I say I’m Metis like it has this implied shame behind it… like there’s something I should apologize for. On a deeper level I guess I’m apologizing for being a halfbreed… I’m apologizing for not being enough of something. Being Metis… to some people is a joke. I’ll take some laughs over it, but at the very core… in the back of my mind… I’m wondering… why am I laughing? Mostly it’s because I’m uncomfortable and it’s an automatic reaction of mine. But I’m laughing along, because I have no other idea what to do in the situation. Sure, there are some legitimate jokes, but context is everything and sometimes context doesn’t matter when you have a history of an alcoholic Prime Minister slaughtering your people in order to try and build a railway across Canada. I never blame other Native people for questions or reactions… because we’ve been regulated, categorized and legislated so much… that I get it, on a level I can’t even articulate… I get it.

Sometimes I can’t discern between my own internalized colonial thought processes about what my identity is, and what it really is… and when these moments happen… I take a moment. I close my eyes, and I think of my kokum sitting at her kitchen table, talking on the phone to someone, in our language. I can’t understand what she’s saying… but somewhere, embedded in her syntax is my being, I know I belong: to her, our people, our language and our history.

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Samantha (@sammymarie) is a fourth year First Nations Studies major from Northern BC. She is passionate about Indigenous rights, Indigenous feminisms, and finding the perfect cup of coffee.

7 Responses to “Notes on Being Metis”

  1. coco

    Thank-you for this… I often feel ashamed of who I am. I consider myself Métis although I am only 4-5th generation (let’s just say I’m not sure because Métis had no land rights, so my family covered up my Métis roots as much as possible). My school always put emphasis on Métis culture and I connect very much with Aboriginal spirituality. I speak French as well and I want to learn Cree so that I can reconnect with that Aboriginal part of me…
    All that to say though that I can’t seem to ‘fit.’ I am passionate about First Nations rights. Most of my white friends consider me white and wonder why I won’t just ‘get off the Aboriginal bandwagon.’ But, on the other side, I often feel alienated from Aboriginal people because I’m ‘too white…’ So where DO I fit? Is it wrong to acknowledge both sides of me? Apparently so.

  2. Lisa

    So very true. Thanks for eloquently stating what I have felt all my life. There is so much that comes up, and my white and native friends just don’t seem to get it. I’m not dissapointed or anything, we walk between two worlds, one that has much more power than the other. Because of the shame I’ve felt at not being able to clearly explain who I am I’m grateful to find support knowing this is an identity problem a lot of us have.

  3. April

    This was a very insightful and interesting read, and definitely relatable. My grandfather, although Metis, was one who did not want to associate with the identity, instead considering his ancestry to be”mixed French”, but from the St. Boniface region. When he got sick and passed away, my dad and I researched our ancestors and found the rich history of the Red River communities our ancestors are from. And I feel Metis, despite having “white” heritage on my mother’s and grandmother’s sides. So can I be both? Why do people feel the need to define others in terms of black and white?

  4. Myra

    I self identify as culturally Metis as my family did receive scrip from the government. I say my mom is Metis and my Dad was white and I have family connection to Louis Riel. I don’t look particularly indigenous but I have uncles whose skin is just about black. I see prejudice on both sides. As had been said, I see the scepitism of the Treaty aboriginal as if I’m some wannabe or fraud. And the whites wonder why I stigmatize myself by making my heritage known. No matter I still choose to honour all my ancestors and the heritage bestowed on me.

  5. Lynn Walford

    Samanatha: Thank you for your story of your upbringing and the importance of your name. I want to know because I have a 30-year long friend who I just found out is a card-holding Métis. From reading other Métis testimonials personal histories are all so different, but everyone is confused and I have to learn to live with that discomfort. I am curious about her upbringing, and maybe she will tell a story too.

  6. Kelly

    I am so glad I found your story. As a metis woman ally life I felt like I don’t belong anywhere. I’m not white society and in not aboriginal. I grew up in white society when I started high school I was now going to school with aboriginal kids. It ended up that I was more accepted with the aboriginal kids. 4 years ago I met my new husband at 43 and he’s aboriginal and we live on his reserve. I feel more at home here than I ever did in my whole life. I’m glad that more education on the Metis people is being taught so we Metis people don’t have to feel shame but proud of who we are. I walk tall now !!

  7. Jenelle

    I can relate to this to some degree. I am metis, and I look more on the native side than the white side. Both my parents, but my dad Moreso is metis. I took my dad’s genes. I’m 36 and only now that I’ve met and married my husband from England have I ever been able to feel proud of being what I am. Growing up in mantioba in the 90s was hard. I felt ashamed that I was a half breed. My white friends would sometimes treat me like I was “dirtier” than them. I didn’t have many native friends because I didn’t want people to think I was native. Isn’t that sad? Sometimes I wish I could go back and be proud of what I am like my sister did. I will say though, that native people were always more accepting of me and made me feel like a person instead of some fraud living the life of a colonial white person. My husband btw is great. He absolutely loves the metis and actually has taught me more than my own family lol. He loves it so much that he is going to move back to manitoba with me because I’m homesick after 18 years of living on Vancouver Island for my metis peers.

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